cybersex – Sex,drugs and mental health.

You may or may not have heard of Bonnie blue, she’s over every social media app, unless she’s been banned from that too. She’s known for her wild, depraved and frankly disturbing sexual acts. She’s an OnlyFans model, made her name known to the world. It’s pretty much everywhere, you may have forcibly heard of her.

Though, this isn’t a blog to bash her, plenty of people are already doing that. I find what she’s doing pretty insane,wild in fact. By my own standard, I’m certainly no prude, I became a sex worker in 2014, seems ages ago now, yet it still stays with me. Very different stories. Like many I assumed she has trauma, addictions, family problems… yet the opposite exists. I found this fascinating, sure she doesn’t stand for sex workers or could relate to many, Bonnie poses a new wave. Are we watching someone ruin themselves trying to get to the top This whole situation is strange, sudden, bizarre. Like many I haven’t appreciated the media shoving it down my throat ( no pun intended). It’s been triggering in some regard, healing from my experience, questioning some aspects, questioning society!

Maybe we won’t see the consequences till later, watching a train crash in slow motion.

1000 Men and me: Bonnie Blue documentary.

Intrigued, I decided to watch the channel 4 documentary, I guess out of curiosity and wanting to understand the mind of the women behind this. Fascination being key rather than disgust, yet disgust being the main word to describe the show. Channel 4 failed to dive into the depths of this woman, although they tried, I still wonder why, I failed to really understand this woman. It was more a documentary showcasing the wild stunts we have already been made aware of, yet I’m still scratching my head wondering what the hell this is all about and why we are being made aware of this in such an already chaotic society of problems.

I used to be a sex worker, I do not judge this woman for being one. It’s a lucrative job in a collapsing society. Yet this is a new form, this is no longer about sexual liberation or feminism, this is about a new generation, GEN Z. This generation have learnt the skill of making money online, easily, quickly and for very little effort. Normal people can make money online be it dancing online or telling their story. You can earn money by views and comments. Quick fame, you might call it a 15 minutes of fame, social media is a business for most gen Z and they have learnt their skill of monetizing themself as a brand, something my shy millennial self cannot comprehend.

Bonnie Blue has been able to monetize herself in a way that has made her stand out in an already crowded and popular platform, kudos. But is she just a victim of the new generation of quick easy online money? She’s not the only one doing these vulgar acts, with other young women trying to beat the next record. It’s almost like ‘what can I do to stay to on top’. She is making up to 1 million pounds a MONTH. Maybe even more either way rumours up to 2 million a month, sex sells clearly. Thats enough for any person to retire in a few months, enough to change someone’s life. Making 1 million a month may be why she is still going at it, although how much money does one need to feel successful?

Is this a new generational norm?

Remember when sex used to be taboo, erotic and sensual? goodbye to that. With acts like Bonnie Blue openly and so honestly doing what she’s doing then what does this end up doing to a society? Do we become normalised to such profanities. Do we become numb to 1000 man gangs. Its not up to Bonnie Blue to control society but when she’s on every social media page, every headline and every Daily Mail read then she must accept some sort of responsibly, this is her brand, bad or good publicity is feeding the storm. If social media died then so would a lot of people’s careers. OnlyFans has become a crowded market, I’m not on it myself, although I did dabble in Covid, it’s a seedy competition in a highly crowded market.

What do I think of the real Bonnie Blue?

Lost.

Lost without yet realising, a sorry state of affairs. I do believe, in some twisted way Bonnie (real name Tia Bellenger) does enjoy this. I love sex too but fail to understand where the real pleasure is coming from rather than a sore vagina, we know from the documentary she uses rage bait and click bait, deep down she doesn’t really believe what she says, it’s part of the Bonnie brand.

Shes doesn’t seem emotional, she can control her emotions in a way that that seems to make her hollow and emotionless. A great trait for someone in the sex industry, a sensitive person would suffer. A very strong worth ethic and competivness that’s seen in many corporate work spaces. She’s an ex dancer so this may explain some of that competitiveness. Perhaps some even narcissistic traits. I believe Bonnie will never be happy and is always striving for the next goal, never satisfied. Bonnie is perhaps a product of a new and unhealthy environment. I don’t believe money is her motivation and rather being the best of the best is. Got to give it to her though, she’s got everyone talking and even got me typing away. How long will this last till it dries up? I’m not sure. How many more stunts can she do without getting arrested? If this was for the love of sex then there would be no need to publicise these events. She may believe she found a niche in the market, sex work is now become a business model. But it shouldn’t be, people tend to forget how sacred sex is , it’s an energy exchange between two people, or 1000 in Bonnie’s case. Bonnie has a whole team around her. The new ‘celebrity status has got even lower.

She is not the voice for sex workers, she cannot imagine what other women have gone through, she is not a victim of sexual abuse or rape. She makes bold claims about women not pleasing their men, yet hasn’t ever experienced any abuse by men. Of course this is all satire to go with the Bonnie Blue brand. I feel sorry for her in a way that she has to do this to become relevant. Another factor I noticed. she seems very level headed, which one may argue that she’s completely lost her head. I don’t believe Bonnie has any regrets right now and is actually enjoying the whole experience. Im almost certain she will have regrets later down the line. Sure she might be rich but she seemed very lonely throughout the documentary. Something I can emphasise with during my experience. Having only connections through sex became heavy on the soul, she will later witness perhaps a loneliness and longing for love in the future which might be harder to attain.

I do not believe she is possessed by demons, I do not believe she is evil! Sure if you’re religious and from the 18th century, you may have these beliefs. I believe she is a pawn to the new digital, make money online era, which I believe will collapse one day. I’ve never met her, I seem to know more about her than I intended. Some of the things she says it’s so intently outrageous, it’s funny! It’s so obvious that this is the brand, the obvious rage bait in an already digital world. I don’t HATE what she’s doing, what I hate is everyone being witnesses to these events.

Overall thoughts…

I am someone that has lived through experiences, I was once an escort, I believe women should enjoy sex without judgement, yet this goes beyond, this is watching someone with no real life experiences or trauma create trauma for themselves. I don’t think we will really see the outrage of the super digital sex era come to light till later down the line. Any women who are thinking about entering this world, be warned, it’s not for most and it’s very short lived, the glamour fades to a dense reality.

So imagine this, folks: the future of sex work is about to get all fancy and futuristic, like a sci-fi movie on steroids. We’re talking AI taking center stage and shaking things up, whether we’re ready or not. And hey, remember that Netflix show, Altered Carbon? It blew my mind, Let’s just say, some scenes were quite the eye-opener. If you catch my drift, high-five!

The ‘perfect women were built’.

Oh, imagine the chaos on Twitter (currently known as ‘X‘) a few years back when those fancy sex robots took over the trending topics. It was like a storm in a virtual teacup, especially among the lovely ladies. Yeah, they built these “perfect women” with silicone bodies, massive knockers, and all the bells and whistles. I mean, seriously? As a former sex worker, I couldn’t help but wonder how on earth I was supposed to compete with those “perfect” replicas. I must admit, I even got a little green-eyed thinking about it. Me, jealous of a soulless robot with huge hooters? Absolutely bonkers, right? It gave me a fleeting glimpse into the future of the industry. But hey, now that I’m out of that world, I can happily say I’m no longer in a race against a sex bot. It did make me ponder the future of the profession though. Oof, crazy times indeed!

I can see this super trendy thing becoming the norm real soon, you know? I mean, sex work is more than just the physical stuff, right? Believe it or not, some of my clients just wanted a bit of chit-chat and the company of an attractive lady. Sounds bonkers, I know, but hey, maybe they were onto something. It’s like they wanted a wholesome experience, someone to listen to their rants and worries about life. And let me tell you, that’s a side of the sex industry nobody talks about! But yeah, not every fella is just looking for a heart-to-heart, and I guess these fancy sex robots are perfect for those types of customers. Though I can’t quite imagine how a wire-based, sexually motivated robot would provide the same kind of connection, you gotta give it to ’em for trying!

So the future of sex work will continue, as always from the beginning of earth, prostitution has been around and I don’t think it will be leaving us anytime soon, yes there will be overly attractive robots that will eventually be crafted to look as human as possible and this will cater for a certain group but sex work involves conversation, intimacy, connection which I find will be hard to get from a sex robot…but i could be wrong, perhaps these mere bodys of wires will be able to hold a better conversation than the most of the general public.

Good or bad?

There is an ongoing debate regarding the implications of future developments in the field of sex robots. Some argue that these advancements may lead to a decline in the demand for human sex workers, while others contend that it could potentially address issues such as rape, abuse, and violence against sex workers. However, it is crucial to consider the ethical ramifications of using sex robots solely as a means for individuals to indulge in their darkest fantasies, as depicted in the TV series “Altered Carbon”. Even if these robots are not human, it does not absolve individuals from the responsibility of distinguishing between right and wrong. This raises concerns about the potential blurring of moral boundaries.

An intriguing article published by The Sun in 2022 explored the notion that virtual reality sex could potentially provide an experience on par with that of real-life encounters. However, such a concept raises certain concerns. It is essential not to overlook the fact that sex serves as a means of establishing a genuine connection between individuals, and it can even evoke highly spiritual experiences. Consequently, recreating these profound sensations within a virtual realm appears dubious at best. The prevalence of individuals developing emotional attachments to online personas, even without physical contact, is already widely acknowledged. As exemplified by cases such as the man who ceremoniously wed a holographic entity, individuals identifying as “fictosexual” indeed exist, describing those who experience intense and enduring feelings of love towards fictional characters. With such considerations in mind, it is not inconceivable that in the forthcoming years, the media may feature headlines that highlight instances of individuals marrying AI cyberbots, illustrating a modern manifestation of the concept of digital love.”

‘A Mark Zuckerberg brothel’

In conclusion, although such a scenario is not yet a reality and may take another twenty years (or less) to materialize, it is important to be prepared for the potential emergence of cybersex and cybersex workers in our society. We need to anticipate the possibility of encountering more news headlines about “digital sex” and the advent of a new era in digitized sexual experiences. Remarkably, there are already strip clubs in the Metaverse. It is unsettling to consider the prospect that, in the not-too-distant future, one could even visit a personal brothel managed by Mark Zuckerberg. Such a notion provokes deep concern.

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