Finally, something the UK government has got right. Their latest report shows Online pornography showing strangulation or suffocation is to be made illegal, as part of government plans to tackle violence against women and girls.
This is just the first step, I believe porn should be banned full stop. I’ve experienced porn addiction myself, I’ve unfortunately experienced the dark path it takes you down, seeking more depraved videos and feeling shame and disgust afterwards. The effect on men has a huge impact, I’m a woman and I’ve seen first hand how porn can taint loving relationships, men seeking more than just sex itself, pushing the limits, referring to sex as vanilla or boring if it doesn’t have any rough or borderline violent sexual aspects. It’s causing our desires to become more darker, deranged and animalistic.
We can have kinks, sure. I’ve explored many kinks over the years, tried many things, a previous escort, a young woman, vulnerable, naive, letting men pay to do what they like to me. Men didn’t want a just a blowjob, they wanted deep throat, choking and gagging. Wanting to recreate videos with me they’ve masterbated to, hiding from their wife in the next room. You see these are the type of videos porn promotes and encourages as normal, yes some may argue this is a kink, a turn on, I get that, though it shouldn’t be expected or normalised for women, women shouldn’t have to feel pressured to portray these acts, I did.
Its is a grey area, sure, a touchy subject for many, though, I don’t believe erotica should be banned or made to feel bad. Though it shouldn’t be promoted either. The UK government finally decided on something for our younger generation, especially the younger boys, if certain acts are banned, it shows it’s not the norm. Conventional sex is not a turn anymore, normal won’t make men hard, they need more, they need you to do what the women in the video did, even though she perhaps isn’t enjoying it, porn is somewhat fake, a fantastic fantasy , FYI this is reality. They need women to be degraded to be turned on, uh oh we have a serious problem.
It’s a difficult one, we don’t want to become a country where erotica becomes illegal or morally wrong, sex has already been degraded. I have a love hate relationship with sex. Sex ruined parts of my life, abuse, rape, grooming, I’ve witnessed it all, yet I don’t want to hate it, I want to share it with my loving partner, I want to still experience the connection between us through sex, though sex has been tainted for me and many women and men.
Maybe this can’t be fixed. I wish sex wasn’t what it is, because it can be beautiful, something I’ve learnt through experience, both terrible and good, throughout history sex has been used and abused. Human nature? We need to change things, and no we shouldn’t go all conservative. Balance right?!
Lust and love have a very thin line, just like love and hate.
So, should porn be banned?
I think so, although I don’t think it’s so black and white, perhaps certain porn should be. Underage role play should, violent porn should, degrading porn should. Finger to your kink. If you find women being degraded the thing that turns you on, maybe you should start looking within and wondering why the hell it does?! Do you deem this normal? Because it’s not, despite kinks. Underlying issues. Perhaps ask yourself why you hate women. Feel the shame.
Sex,drugs and mental health. 